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10 Steps to Start Writing Your Memoir
- Clarify Your Purpose
Ask yourself: Why do I want to write this?
Is it to pass on wisdom, process life events, preserve family history, or inspire others? Knowing your “why” keeps you motivated. - Choose a Focus or Theme
A memoir isn’t your whole life—it’s a window into a season, a turning point, or a thread (e.g., faith, resilience, motherhood, military life).
Pick one overarching theme to guide your storytelling. - Create a Memory List
Jot down 20–50 quick bullet points of vivid memories tied to your theme.
Think of turning points, people, lessons, or “firsts.” Don’t worry about order—just get them down. - Pick a Starting Point
Choose one memory from your list that feels powerful or clear. Begin there.
You don’t have to start at the beginning of your life—start where the emotion is strongest. - Set a Writing Schedule
Commit to writing regularly—even 15–30 minutes a few times a week.
Consistency is key. Think of it as a gift to your future readers. - Write in Scenes, Not Summaries
Instead of saying, “It was a hard time,” show it. What were you wearing? What did the room smell like?
Use dialogue, sensory details, and emotion to bring memories to life. - Write First, Edit Later
Let yourself write imperfectly. Don’t worry about grammar or structure at first.
Just get your story on the page—you can always revise later. - Reflect, Don’t Just Report
Memoir isn’t just what happened—it’s what it meant.
Pause to include your thoughts, growth, and perspective over time. - Ask Someone You Trust to Read a Section
A friend or writing group can give helpful feedback and encouragement.
Choose someone who will be honest and kind. - Keep Going—Even When It’s Hard
Some stories may stir up emotions. That’s okay. Step back if needed, but don’t give up.
Remember: your story has power, and someone needs to hear it.
